I know some of you are thinking that is easy to do, but unknowingly you have already changed. Change is a part of life that is sometimes necessary, but in rare cases irrelevant. There are people who would like to exploit these ideas on their own. They are people in your everyday life that, unbeknownst to you are changing your thought patterns every day. Whether they mean it or not is another story. Let me break these certain people down and why you should be wary of them.

The One Uppers

bn1This person does well exactly what the title says. You tell a story and they always have to make one better. You break a finger and they tale an outlandish tale about how they broke their leg. You cannot talk to these people or even relate to them. They think they are better than you and will tell you so. The problem with these people is they will always be negative and they aren’t good for your overall well-being. Word of advice, rid yourself of them or stay away as much as possible.

“If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome.” -Michael Jordan



bn2These mysterious human beings can elude you. You may not even know they are lying. They may be good at it, but they have one character flaw, they cannot keep a straight story. I always can tell a liar eventually because I can remember stories. I can point these out in a lot of people after a while because I’ll repeat the story and they will correct me. People like this are bad for you too. You can never trust them. Rid yourself of liars even if you have some unknown ties with these folk. They never do anyone any good, but themselves.

“Half of the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm but the harm does not interest them.” -T.S. Eliot


The Texter

bn3We all have that one person in our lives who is always on their phones. Perhaps a while back you did hang with them frequently, but now you never see them, but they always converse with you by text to give you a false security that they are your friend. No, I’m not talking about the friends that have moved away or the ones you see seldom because they work a lot. The ones I’m talking about is the ones you haven’t seen in a couple of years and are amazing at coming up with excuses of why you cannot hang out. These people are harmful to your mental health and it isn’t good that you keep friends with them. They will never be there for you when you really need them.

“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” -Shirley MacLaine


The Gossiper

bn4We all have that one friend that we probably expect has other motives hanging out with you. You talk around them and coincidences happen around you. A friend deletes you from Facebook or someone writes a status similar to something you were talking about earlier. After a couple of coincidences the veil is lifted and you start to suspect what is happening. Sometimes you keep that person around just for selfish purposes because you know they will tell people anything you say. Maybe you just have too much fun causing trouble. Unfortunately, these people are also bad for you. They give you a reason to have a negative view. Negativity bigots negativity, so best to let them go.

 “If you are bent on revenge, dig two graves.”- Old Chinese Proverb


The Apologizer

bn66This is the person that already has previously betrayed you some way or form. They may have apologized and you have forgiven them, but you still have a doubt in the back of your mind. Doubt will always grow and it’s always going to grow into something else. Once someone betrays you, just like in the movies they will run your hope into the ground. They may mean a lot to you, but at least keep them at a distance. If you let them back into your inner circle of trust, they will most likely betray you again. Let’s say maybe even if they don’t, you will still have that doubt in the back of your head. It is best though not to let this fester.

“Wrongs are often forgiven, but contempt never is. Our pride remembers it forever.” Lord Chesterfield

Those that I have listed are just a few of negative people that will pass through in your life and how to recognize them. You will be amazed at how much happier you will be if you just rid yourself of them or at least distance yourself.  If you distance yourself at least they can’t do you any harm. Separating yourself from negativity can better your life. The people around you influence you whether you like it or not. When you rid yourself of negativity, something amazing happens. Your attitude changes and you change to… for the better.  Life is an experience, learn to enjoy it and not let the little things or people ruin it for you.

“The old saying that “success breeds success” has something to it. It’s that feeling of confidence that can banish negativity and procrastination and get you going the right way.”- Donald Trump