JanetRockyTouchaYes, this is the over-share article.  I’m in a committed relationship, with Cage, and I’m not complaining about that.  I want commitment and stability.  The fact that I adore the man, should say something as well.  He’s great in the sack.  Can last longer than anyone I’ve ever been with (super plus), so I almost always get mine.  After 11 years of bad sex, this is an excellent thing.  However, I am always the one initiating.  Looking back over the last few years, I’m usually the one starting the kissing and touching.  I haven’t always been this way.  After my realization that my sex drive is higher than most men, I took the advice of a friend and dated a younger guy.  I’m talking 10 years younger.  He was 21.  He actually complained that that’s all we did when we were alone.  Now, I’m not a sex fiend, but come on!  WTF is going on?  Most women hit their sexual prime in their 30’s.  Yeah, that’s me.  I can’t have any more kids, so it’s an: anywhere, any time thing.  No, I don’t want to just have sex.  Cage and I have great conversations.  We can sit and talk for hours.  I like that I don’t have to dumb down the conversation just so he can understand me.  I know I turn him on; his eyes say so, as well as his package 🙂  I don’t like feeling like a nympho.

While I was single, I was looking for a FWB type situation.  Judge all you want; you’ll pay for that at the pearly gates.  First and foremost; I’m a mom.  I have a full time job.  We have birthday parties to attend, school functions, ball games, gym, the list is endless.  If there’s a man in my bed, I want a roll in the hay before I go to sleep.  Give me mine at night, you can have yours in the morning, again.  If I’m happy, I guarantee you’ll be happy.

clingygirlfriendAll my life, I heard about how men only want one thing.  Don’t put out cause they’ll think that’s all you want and that’s all they’ll want you for.  Okay.  While dating, I found a guy that I found very attractive.  Don’t care if you want to admit it or not, that’s part of it.  I let him make the first move, but I took over.  The sex was good.  Not great, but good.  Hell of a lot better than my vibrator…  After about 30 minutes, we were both spent.  I let my breathing calm and there was the awkward silence.  I patted his arm and said “Thanks.” and proceeded to dress.  This really made him mad.  There was literally an argument that followed.  He had told me he didn’t want to jump into a relationship and I agreed.  I didn’t want a relationship either.  I was told I was acting mean.  How?  For knowing what I want?  When you agreed to no relationship, but proceeded to sex, I thought we were on the same page.  Oh no!  I’m a woman, I’m supposed to be clingy.  I left and had a text before I got home.  He apologized for how he acted and said he wanted what I wanted.  The next time we met up (at his house, he never knew where I lived), he tried making me jealous.  I am a jealous person, if I’m in a relationship.  We were not in a relationship.  He wanted to go on a date with a girl.  I told him I wouldn’t come back, cause obviously he did want a relationship.  He seemed aggravated but proceeded in the physical act.  He got a little rough (something I do enjoy on occasion) and that time we went for more than an hour.  While we were in the bathroom, cleaning up and disposing of the protection, I noticed a hickey.  I was angry.  He swore he didn’t mean to, that it just happened.  It was on my breast and could easily be covered, but so not the point.  After that, I didn’t return and wouldn’t answer his calls/texts.  That was too far and I’d had enough.  Yeah, I sound like a guy.  But if there’s so many guys like that, why is it so hard to find one?  No, I’m not looking for one currently.  Very happy with Cage, but I can’t be the only one out there like this.  I’d love feedback on the matter if you have a few moments.

xoxo,

Em

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Emerson Braddock

Hello people! I am Emerson and I am a geek. I enjoy making people laugh and don’t mind being the butt of the joke. Though I usually make others the butt of jokes. Well, enough about butts. I have two kids who are my whole world and are commonly referred to as Luke and Leia. My love life is laughable and I don’t see an end to that any time soon. So if you think I’m pathetic, just keep reading what I write cause it gets worse. You may end up feeling better about yourself.