Someone once asked me what would be your best advice to a younger version of yourself. It was a very good question and took me a while to come up with a good enough answer. I had to pour my eyes over old journals, old statuses, and old blog posts. Believe it or not, I wasn’t the same person anymore. I have changed dramatically. One of the best reasons I can give for that is I don’t really care anymore. I used to care what people thought of me, especially people that didn’t matter. My best advice is just that. Don’t let people’s opinions of you change the person you are.

;iuyfjyhdyhgdckdjydjytI had for many years wondered why people didn’t like me. I knew I was strange. I was very different than the other kids. I was always very talented and that intimidated people. My mom always called me weird. I used to think that it was a bad thing. The real reason is that is isn’t bad at all. Being weird just means that I am different. I used to try to fit in and lose sight of who I really was. The truth is, I know who I am now. I don’t need anyone, not even my own parents to tell me.

I am strange, weird, and unusual. I like dark colors & bright colors. I like the rain and storms. I like being nerdy. I like being creative. It’s in my nature. I am a hippy that supports the military. I like coffee in the morning and at night. When I’m stressed I like to cry, paint, or write. I like rock music, but also love classical. I am a two-edged sword and parallel anomaly. That’s what makes me special. I don’t go out of my way to be unique, I just am. My English teacher always said the only problem I have at being a great artist was focus. I am a master at run on sentences.

I don’t know if I would give advice to my younger self. I would rather give advice to my daughter because she will be a younger me with her own individuality that makes her special. I lived my life, and I don’t regret any of it mainly because the life I have now would not be the life I would have. My daughter, though, has her whole life ahead of her and so many choices and mistakes to make. They will be her own mistakes. Life is a series of mistakes that lead you where you are.
My advice would be to not let the judgmental bastards get you down. You are beautiful, unique, and different. Weird is not a bad thing. It makes you different. The difference may scare people because it’s not what they are used to and that’s okay. People will be jealous and will portray that on to you. That isn’t your fault. Never take what people say to heart, even though I know it’s hard. People are always caught in their own lives and what they do to you mostly have nothing to do with you. You need to remember that. Be your own person. Embrace your own individuality. Don’t ever let anyone tell you different. Don’t let people change you. You are influenced by their attitudes. Surround yourself with people you would like to become.

This goes to anyone who is struggling with embracing their own individuality or anyone that is struggling with people that tell you that you are strange. Don’t take what they do to heart. Usually they are struggling with their own inner demons. I hope this helps someone in a similar situation. Don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t special because you are. You are unique, beautiful, and different. Your individuality is what makes you beautiful. Hold on to that, love yourself, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise because they are damn liar. Stay unique!

About the author

Amber Mcquade

Hi, my name is Amber aka blur. Blur is a childhood nickname my dad gave me because of my ADHD and that’s all he ever saw of me. I like to call myself a nerd gamer extraordinaire. I spend most of my time writing, gaming, and watching TV. I have a huge addiction to British television. My obsessions are Doctor Who, Sherlock, & Orphan Black. I am happily married to the love of my life and we have two cats named Charlotte & Mina. We also have a huge dog who thinks he’s a baby named Maximus. Our idea of a good weekend is lots of coffee, big bowls of cereal, and gaming on our separate TVs that are in the same room with separate headsets. I have way too many talents and not enough outlets. Not only do I write, but I sing, draw, play guitar, sew, craft, cut hair, dye hair, and many more. I’ve heard that genius borders insanity and I tend to cross between the two constantly. Other than that I love music, my furbabies, and documenting everyday life .I believe that if you aren’t living life if you hate your job so find something you love and stick with it and your happy ending will soon follow behind. Don’t take life so seriously, No one makes it out alive anyway.
ambermcquade@tbkmagazine.com